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Shared fantasies: Justin Lehmiller on the science of sexual desire

Shared fantasies: Justin Lehmiller on the science of sexual desire

By Race Bannon

In this column, I'll share some insights from Justin Lehmiller, an esteemed Research Fellow at The Kinsey Institute and author of the book 'Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire.'

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By Race Bannon | July 2, 2019

LGBTQ people from all walks of life, including us kinksters, walked down Market Street at Sf Pride — joyful, proud and determined to continue to stake our claim to a happy and equal life.

By Race Bannon | July 2, 2019

Even after Pride month, there's always a lot going on in the San Francisco Bay Area for leather and other kinksters.


By Race Bannon | June 19, 2019

With pre-Pride events added each day, there's even more going on in the San Francisco Bay Area for leather and other kinksters.

By Race Bannon | June 5, 2019

Every year for decades men have descended on Chicago over the Memorial Day weekend for an annual leather pilgrimage otherwise known as International Mr. Leather (IML), as did I this past week.


By Race Bannon | June 5, 2019

In chilly summers, leather's comfy, and there's always a lot going on in the San Francisco Bay Area for leather and other kinksters.

By Race Bannon | April 24, 2019

Over the course of my tenure writing this column, I've received feedback that readers often prefer something other than pure reporting on events. As one gentle critic put it, "I prefer you don't just reword an event's program," and they have a point.


By Race Bannon | April 10, 2019

Recently, a young gay man messaged me, stating, "I've tried the leather scene. It's not for me." I asked why. He said, "It's not about sex anymore. It's not even about anything erotic anymore." Was he correct?

By Cornelius Washington | April 3, 2019

Our Bestie winner in Sex celebrate businesses that help you embrace your desires. We want you to embrace, engage with and utilize them while you still can.


By Race Bannon | March 27, 2019

On some level, creating community is a numbers game. The more times you try, the more times you succeed. Sometimes you have to throw lots of stuff against the wall to see what sticks.

By David-Elijah Nahmod | March 15, 2019

Blow Buddies, a private gay sex club that's operated in South of Market since 1988, could be in danger of closure. The owner is trying to sell the building, which is located at 933 Harrison Street.


By Race Bannon | March 13, 2019

One of the annual projects of the San Francisco Bay Area Leather Alliance is producing the Leather Alliance Weekend, which took place February 28 through March 3. The weekend included the San Francisco Bootblack and Mr. San Francisco Leather 2019 contest.

By Race Bannon | February 27, 2019

Why is it difficult for some to find erotic connections? I've talked to a lot of kinksters about this and a discussion point comes up repeatedly; the role online life has in finding play partners.


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